Just out of curiosity, I'm trying to learn how others think :P
why are you out in public if you wont want to be socialized with? Isn't that what home is for? :P
Shopping can be delivered, work can (90%) be done form a home office, etc. If people aren't free to talk to you, why put yourself in the situation?
Not wanting to socialise != not wanting to leave the house.
I have to go to work in an office, I don't get a say in that. While I'm at work, I have to go out and buy lunch. I suppose I could bring my own, but eh, effort. These days are fine, city workers just want to eat and get back to work, they don't want to socialise, and that's fine with me.
On weekends, however, generally speaking I do like to get out of the house, eat at restaurants, go see movies, etc. That doesn't implicitly mean I'm out to meet/greet people.
If I want to talk to someone while I'm out and about, I'll invite a friend along, and talk to them. Or even just give them a call. Likewise, I don't mind if someone I already know contacts me and wants to catch up, that's fine, I voluntarily gave them my details so they can do so, and I can always say 'no, maybe another time' if I don't feel like it.
And you know, 99.999% of the time, it's fine. Nobody approaches me, nobody talks to me unless I talk to them first (e.g. buying something at a shop), it's all good. I have no want/need to erode that 99.999% by deliberately doing things to draw attention to myself.
On the odd occasion I do get a "cool shirt!" or some such, a polite "Thanks" and keep walking has so far been enough to end the exchange.
I guess what I'm getting at is that I need to be the one to initiate contact. I don't want unsolicited communications, not in my inbox, not on my phone, and certainly not in real life.
If I need 'me time' and I want it to be in a public place, I wait till about 2:30AM, and my chances of being bothered by others is much slimmer. (assuming I'm not glowing :P)
If I'm going to be some place for a long time to unwind (reading in the park, Twittering on a bench in town), my strategy is to wear some cheap flimsy earbuds, but not plug them in. Then I can conduct myself in peace, and not get annoyed by strangers.
By not playing music, I can still soak in the ambient noise of the place, people, nature, whatnot. But I look like I'm listening to music, so people leave me alone.
I get the best of both worlds.
Edited by SquallStrife, 26 July 2016 - 01:09 PM.