I don't use socials.
Thanks to this I often have the bliss of avoiding the "Lets attack X this week!" (of which all genders, creeds, and races are guilty of doing).
Recently, shows like Tonightly (Tom Ballard) have brought this term to light....
Frankly, I'm a little confused how quite so much of this.... one sided shit, gets to be public.
I'm going to risk putting my neck out here, and risk saying something very wrong.
So feel free to ASK rather than ASSUME I mean something, if I make a boo boo.
First of all, am I right that this 'Mainsplaining' thing is a reaction from a minority (from both genders)?
At risk of severely inserting my foot into my mouth, (and well aware I'm grossly generalizing); does anyone else find it much more common for males to be the ones who research random shit, and (admittedly, annoyingly) educate others on it?
Of course many women can\do this too (I have quite a few in my friend circles! One has a 'secret' phd! lol); but it seems to not be the norm.
I'd wager 8/10 of my male friends could converse about topics they don't have any involvement in, but have researched 'just because'.
However probably only 4/10 of my female friends could do the same.
More curious to me though.
What do we think about there being a cause and effect relationship to the overly politically correct environment we've recently bred, and this new 'trend'?
A gut feeling (and this is where I could go from foot in mouth, to leg in mouth :P) is that, while heaven forbid males generalize or criticize females as a whole gender; us males (including the good ones) have copped it for many years now.
Possibly, because of this, our nature of communication is getting inadvertently warped, and resulting in communication being ....hard, less direct.... more... calculated?
We feel like we need to explain ourselves, for fear of attack.
(EDIT: its actually quite apparent, by how many times I've felt the need to explain I am aware i'm generalizing, and that not everyone is like this, etc /edit)
I know, that for me personally, the difference in communication that feels socially expected when a female is involved in a predominantly male group, is very real.
For example, (once again, second foot at risk of being inserted here), generally males seem to 'shit talk' each other a lot more than females will. Be disgusted less. Be offended less.
No, no, I'm not suggesting every female is a delicate flower who can't handle that, I'm just saying it feels less common.
As a random example;
if I was sitting with a group of, say overweight friends (I'm a nerd, I have many :P), and we were all 'friendly teasing' each other about said weight, I'd think twice before ribbing any overweight females in the group.
Society has trained me that way.
I personally like a woman that the media would like to call 'chubby', but history, and media teaches us to be 'careful' with women.
It just feels like, thus far, we've seen a lot of "Hey, We're not some delicate flower!" followed by "How dare you tease her!" well... that's what we do to each other.... it's meant to be harmless; this isn't 'fair'!
Do you want it the same, or do we need to be careful?
In addition, it feels extremely common for female friends to want to sit you down and explain how feelings or relationships work. (and yes, that's a HUGE stereotype, but once again, just personal experience)
Is that the flip side? Women expecting that men feel differently than they think they do?
Once again, far from everyone, but we're playing with stereotypes here.
Always a flammable social cloth.
Anyway I'm rambling.
What I'm trying to say, is that it feels like 'mansplaining' has come about, because men are concerned (scared? abused? I don't know, i'm asking) about how to interact with women in this new world order.
Do we just pretend everything is equal, and assume they generally know about topics that women (stereotypically) don't?
Are my life experiences unique?
Or have I totally missed the point?
What are the people complaining, trying to fix?
Is the whole mansplaining thing, about the guys who do it in a belittling manner?
Such as on topics you WOULD assume any gender with basic intelligence would know?
I may, as usual, just be missing the point :P
Edited by Master_Scythe, 20 March 2018 - 04:05 PM.