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My girlfriend has passed 3 pregnancy tests with flying colours after coming up short on her monthly thingo. We think she is 3-4 wks along, so early days for now but still doesn't hurt to get acquainted with a bit of a reality check in the meantime I figure. She wants to wait until about 7-8 wks before going to a doc. According to an aplication she downloaded, she'll be due around March 7th next year.

 

I have started by moving the motorbike out of the spare room and mulching the garden.

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folic acid : 500mcg daily

no alcohol / caffeine / ... in fact, no drugs at all till > 6 weeks if at all possible, including panadol if you are paranoid

no raw fish or runny cheeses

no cleaning cat shit

 

if she's vegan > iron supplementation

 

get lots of sleep; after march 7 (probably later than that; first babies are notoriously late by ~ 10 - 14 days quite often), you won't get much unbroken sleep for probably several months - if you're lucky ! otherwise maybe several years

 

 

 

make any plans you want, including a birth plan, but be warned that babies don't read, and will do whatever they do

 

your best plan is to be adaptable, and lower your standards

 

congratulations !

 

and good luck ! there is nothing anyone can tell you that will adequately prepare you for parenthood

 

 

 

it's great, but it's the most endless job you ever had, and life will change completely

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Congrats... but... mulching the garden?

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Congrats... but... mulching the garden?

 

spur of the moment

 

Yes, congrats to you both RenascentMisanthropy :)

Also I heartily approve and endorse your spur of the moment. A good garden is always appreciated imo, especially for that much needed quiet spell ...

Motor bike is far too noisy to share the kids quarters ... they both will stink it out, just in different ways is all

 

Give up most of the junk food; get into the habit of good sleeping / rest patterns; go out now and make some good memories that you can think on in the wee hours of the morning whilst rocking your kid back to sleep.

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Congratulations to you both.

 

your wallet and your life now belong to your child !

 

Enjoy.. You could be getting a kewl Train Set !

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Congrats... but... mulching the garden?

 

spur of the moment

 

 

 

woulda been safer mowing the lawn than hoeing the garden...

 

 

although in this day and age i guess there are less front lawns than back in my hippie youth

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Time to look into your private health insurance and sort out what you want to do in regards to going private or public.

 

Look into the Medicare safety net - https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/services/medicare/medicare-safety-net - get you and the GF enrolled as a family

 

Get used to this http://www.mbsonline.gov.au/internet/mbsonline/publishing.nsf/Content/Home

 

Be aware of this - http://www9.health.gov.au/mbs/search.cfm?q=16590&Submit=&sopt=I and review the safety net info per above - Most obstetricians I know of will change at least $2000 for this consult but you'll only get $316.85 + $219.45 back, but the safety net will apply for the rest of the year

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Choose a caesarian ... and a doc with wonderful stitching skills. Do your pelvic exercises religiously << speaking to your GF, but hey you could join in if you wish, they can be done just about anywhere.

 

edit : spelling the easy words is a fucker at times

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Firstly - congratulations!

 

Secondly - some great advice in this thread.

 

Thirdly - face it all with common sense - I know too many who go by "what the baby book says".... as scruffy1 says - babies can't read and they love to throw you a curve ball just to fuck your plans up.

 

Fourthly - enjoy, take each day as it comes.

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Lots of good advice, thank you all :D

 

I've accepted that my house isn't being paid off in the next two years.

Yes ! A really good train set with all the bells and whistles, can really set you back these days

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Baby won't remember a thing and there's no such thing as correct parenting or a perfect baby.

 

Baby 2.0 will be different to 1.0. There are no right answers.

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Hey congrats!

 

Scope out the hospital and the maternity ward in person first and if you don't like it, scope out another one. We had a horror experience at RPA and wouldn't touch the place again with a 100ft pole.

 

Other than that, just love your kid and it'll usually turn out fine. The ones that don't the state will take care of :-p

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Mulching the garden sounds sensible to me. The day I found out I was pregnant AD went and bought a new bed. Mulch is probably cheaper.

Here's my parenting advice:

1 Don't panic.

2 Ignore anybody who says 'enjoy it now' in reference to pregnancy or babies. Life is a bazillion times better once they turn into proper humans

3 Remember to test out all possible combinations of your chosen name. Initials, full name, middle initial, out loud, written down, and likely nicknames. Google the names together to make sure there isn't already a serial killer with that name. Google alternative spellings and see which one has the least number of porn hits. Try to guess what the mean kid in year 5 will come up with as a nickname. Do you still like it? Okay, go ahead.

4 Really, don't panic. It'll be fine.

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Oh probably the two most surprisingly useful gifts we received were a baby thermometer and baby nail clippers.

 

 

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Congrats!

Welcome to the next 4ish years of poop. 

So much poop. Solid, runny, brown to green and possibly more colours. 

And of course, the aromas.

May the lord have mercy upon your souls.

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🙂

 

First congrats, then a bit of a story 🙂

In my family, a very large one, a common saying is kids arrive with a scotch in one hand, a big cigar in the other and ask who is in charge here ? "wrong." 🙂

I always had a tiny advantage of being the eldest of five and having an active part in raising my siblings, but they are all different and THEY will decide what they need, and what you have to do, not you 🙂

I don't think I've ever illustrated just how different one child can be from another by comparing how my pair arrived.

The eldest gave my then wife a near- perfect pregnancy, finally she went into nesting mode, had a shower and woke me to say it was time to go to the hospital. Had enough time to get her settled, go find a coffee and be back in time for the birth and to be handed my little bundle of joy, always an easy kid.

Just as well, my wife fell pregnant again rather quickly and just a few months in I get a call from my brother-in-law to say she was at his place in the hills and had arrived bleeding from a client visit up there.

His place was a lot closer to Flinders hospital than mine and I needed to get mother-in-law to look after my daughter but I still beat them to the hospital,  I guess supersonic flying has advantages...

The doctors started to tell us it was a miscarriage but my wife suddenly interrupted to say she had felt the baby kick... never seen docs move so fast. She was in hospital until the birth, which they thought would be premature but instead had to be induced, leaving me to finish establishing a business and look after a barely walking child - I gave up sleep for a time. There had been some detachment of the umbilical, but it had re-attached apparently and a very healthy child, definitely smoking a cigar, arrived.

A study in contrasts are my daughters and I was left to look after them, with much family assistance, because my wife had to remain in hospital for a time.

They basically took over my life, especially the younger one, who whenever awake was as like as not to be crying and in need of attention until she figured out how to sit up, then the crying stopped and her world conquest began... 🙂

I guess that illustrates to some degree why preparing for childbirth is false security, they will determine what they need 🙂

Cheers

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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9 hours ago, fredzfrog said:

Congrats!

Welcome to the next 4ish years of poop. 

So much poop. Solid, runny, brown to green and possibly more colours. 

And of course, the aromas.

May the lord have mercy upon your souls.

Way back when :

I managed a trendiesh clothing shop. A teenage guy came in to get an outfit for his sixth form end of year " do ". Thing is his mum ( carrying a new born ) came in too. So far so good. Guy is doing his best to be cool even with his mum and co.

there, getting a few outfits together to try on when out of the blue or rather his mum's arms emerges this off-putting squishy noise and a line of green -> yellow pooh. Mum had super duper reflexive powers ... it was like she caught that burst of pooh !

For which I'm eternally grateful.  Reckon mum'd had plenty of practice with the catching ... it was mighty fine to behold

\end derail.

 

 

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